How to Have a Productive IEP Meeting

Adapted from an article written by Mashawna Thompson

This is not a comprehensive list. I’m not a teacher, although I do have a teaching degree. The advice I give is based on my experience as a parent, having two children (ages 4 and 14) who have IEPs and the dozens of IEP meetings I have prepared for and attended. Over the years I’ve made plenty of mistakes, but through them learned a lot. I now go into IEP meetings with much more confidence and competence and with far less fear than I did going in to the first one.

The most important piece of advice I can give is, be prepared. Do your homework prior to the IEP meeting. If they will be preparing a draft IEP, request a copy of the draft, proposed goals, and the results of any assessments/evaluations be given to you so you have time to review them before the IEP meeting. This is necessary in order for you to have active and meaningful participation in the meeting. If there is another assessment that you believe needs to be completed in order to provide a more complete evaluation of your child’s needs, you have the right to request one.

Ask to observe your child’s classroom, not only to see how your child performs, but also to look for areas in which the classroom teacher may need support or additional resources. Put together your own description of your child’s abilities and the services and accommodations you want. This information will be part of what makes up your child’s Academic Achievement and Functional Performance (PLAAFP). There is no limit to the length of this section, so write as much as is necessary to cover your child’s strengths, weaknesses, and needs.

Don’t forget to address areas of the Expanded Core Curriculum. These include compensatory academic skills, orientation and mobility, social interaction, independent living, recreation and leisure, career education, self-determination, use of technology, and visual efficiency skills. For specific examples and more information visit the following website:

You can write your own list of goals, services and accommodations you want. Goals should be based on PLAAFP. Learn how to write SMART IEP goals at

Visit the NOAH CARE website ( ) for specific examples of goals, services, accommodations and modifications for children with albinism.

Maintain high expectations for your child’s achievement. Expect grade level work. Expect the same level of achievement as you would if he/she did not have a disability. Expect him/her to be able to take notes, do research, work in groups, participate in projects, clubs, field trips, etc.

Don’t be intimidated. You are an expert with invaluable knowledge about your child’s abilities and needs. Bring support to the IEP meeting. Federal law allows you to invite anyone who has knowledge or expertise about your child. Have the people you invite take notes during the meeting. Bring any handouts/articles that address the specific needs of your child’s disability.

If possible, record the IEP meeting. This is the easiest way to ensure you have a detailed and accurate account of everything that is said /not said and every decision that is made during the meeting. Offer to provide the IEP team with a copy of the recording. The laws for recording meetings vary by state. Check with your state’s Department of Education.

Remember that the IEP process/meeting is not a war. Be polite and professional. Don’t go into the meeting with good guys against bad guys attitude. Keep it positive and focused. Get along with and respect the IEP team members, maintaining a professional relationship. You will likely be interacting and working with this group for many future IEP meetings. It’s okay to get upset. However, don’t let your emotions lead to a compromise that you wouldn’t otherwise allow. Don’t waste time arguing. Don’t waste time attempting to defend or justify your opinions and requests.

During the meeting you can ask them to change anything on the draft IEP that is incorrect and add any additional information that you want to be included. If you are confused about anything in the evaluations or draft IEP, ask them to explain it in terms that you can understand.

Take your time. Don’t feel rushed. Ask the team to reconvene if necessary, to allow you more time for you to review evaluation results, draft IEP and proposed goals. Don’t leave the IEP meeting without a copy of the revised draft IEP and any other documents that were prepared during the meeting. You do not have to sign the final IEP document at the IEP meeting.

Know your rights. State and district laws can expand on IDEA law and regulations, to increase services, but not to decrease rights or services. You are an equal member of your child’s IEP team. You know your child better than anyone and the IEP team must take your concerns and opinions into consideration when writing the IEP.